Change

Change seems to be the buzz word of this year so far, so lets look at what makes change happen, and how do we do it with some class and composure. Change is a thing worth getting good at, and I for one, aim to be great. I want to talk a bit about what I think it takes to be great at change.
Some words on change. Change is instant...Growth is constant. Change is not measurable, until after the fact. You can never see your child grow, but you place marks near a door jamb to measure their changes. Change has size not speed. The depth, width, and length of the change is determined by the choices and their involvement in our lives. How long have we loved or not around this choice? How long have we been in pain? How long ago did the process of change begin? How long has this issue been active? (length) Does this choice cover a wide arena of my life? Does it involve my job, relationship, family, health, hobbies, quality of life? Or, just one of these things? or more things? (width) Who began the change, or pain? Was it a Grand Authority, or someone close or not so close to you? What was the source of change/pain? Was it a big change or a little change? (depth) Also important to know, the grieving process is part of all change. Something always dies in change. Something must be destroyed in order to create something new. No two things can occupy the same space in a physical reality.

First, to change anything requires we understand we must be able to recognize the need for it. So recognition is the first step. Not so hard, but you might be surprised at how inept we can be at this simple aspect. Self realization is no easy task. That's why we must look to our relationships for the hints and clues of change. How many people do any of us know at any given moment, that are struggling in some arena in their life? Most people don't recognize a need for change until they have reached some level of pain and struggle that has superseded where they are capable. Disease is a good example here. The person who said,"Necessity is the mother of invention", certainly had this in mind. For change to be ELEGANT recognition would be the first key. You can feel this step physically in the body, it is the moment of awareness, the "AHH Ha!" moment. That is the physical birth of a new Neural transmitter.

Second step to change is Acknowledgment. In the form of taking the time to see what this previous perspective, thought, or feeling has been serving you and what it has been stopping or keeping you from. What is the story, what is the myth? who have you been being, how did it serve you on both fronts. Did it keep you safe? How did it keep you small? What did it keep you from? What wall did you consistently hit because of it? It is the step in your mind where you are now outside of the issue, outside the neural path, building a new one, not unlike building a frontage road. You are outside the road, next to it, still travelling the same direction, but seeing it, but not actually on it, no way yet to change direction, it is as if you are along side the issue taking in from the outside all the info you can, the more depth you can accumulate the more you will have gathered to make the change easier and more significant.

Third step to change is Forgiveness. This is where most people get stuck. It is also the hardest step because of all the false beliefs we have around forgiveness. Examples can be,"who are WE to forgive, we do not have that right", usually a lack of authority of some kind. Many adept people can recognize a problem, even talk all about all the W's,(the awarenesses around acknowledgement) why, where, what, and who did it. Some key things about forgiveness. Within forgiveness, you must forgive yourself first. You will not truly release the other without releasing yourself first, it clears the path. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. You forgive to release yourself from the issue first, you are at cause or allowing in your reality, forgiving yourself first is the proper use of responsibility. Otherwise, the issue and the person, whether dead or not, will control you. You also must forgive the why, not necessarily the what. Why they did what they did is needed and can be forgiven. If for instance your father raped you, you can forgive why, he was abused, angry, he was hurting, he was... whatever may have been what drove him. The fact that he did what he did, is another issue. Although he was in pain or whatever, he did not have to respond the way he did. Releasing the why, releases you, and him. On the neural pathway system, you have now disengaged the reason for the issue to exist. Now the pain and the pattern are known and a new pathway has been created. The old path has been energetically fractured, you have taken away it's existence, the physical and emotional reasons it was there. Now you easily move into the fourth step.

The fourth step of change is Choice/Change. Now you have a choice, to live the old way with it's reality/pattern, you are aware of it's limitations, it's struggles and pay-offs, or to move into a new way of being/thinking/feeling. Now you have choice, and the ability to change. You have created an Option for yourself. You can still choose the old way, but there is now real choice. Rehab is typically 28 days, your sub-conscious can create a new pattern in 28 days. This can change a pattern in a matter of minutes if you are committed to it with a willed and focused choice. As you choose the new way of being, the old neural pathway will fade away, as it is not being used and you have no use for it. The new pattern will dominate and it will become another unconscious choice, operating elegantly as away of being. The real beauty here is, you now have personally put in your first program yourself as the adult, next time you feel struggle in this arena, you know exactly what you did last time and can more easily and elegantly make your next round of change. As you grow within the new parameters, you will get to the time where you must change the boundaries again, a new dance floor, and you will know what to do.